How to Provoke Your Children to Anger

Eph. 6:1-4

  • As the number of options increases, the costs, in time and effort, of gathering the information needed to make a good choice also increase. The level of certainty people have about their choice decreases. And the anticipation that they will regret their choice increases.       -Barry Schwartz
  • When Paul outlines how parents should behave towards their children, it is not the exercise, but the restraint, of their authority which he urges upon them.        -John Stott
  1. Don’t Treat Them Like Children
  2. Don't Treat Them Like Future Adults
    1. Prov. 2:1-5
  3. Don't Treat Them Like Human Beings
    1. How does the incarnation change the way you speak to your children? God became a child. That one act of condescension and identification should forever stop us from denigrating children. The incarnation would have astonished them. To them, children were chattel, properly to be disposed of at a father’s whim. What about the resurrection? Does the truth of Christ's victory over sin and death make any difference when our kids struggle with ongoing sin? How? In the resurrection Jesus brought justification to those who believe, including our believing children. If they are justified, God looks at them not only as those who have never sinned but as those who have always obeyed. How would this truth change your parenting?     -Elyse Fitzpatrick & Jessica Thompson
  4. Forget Their Need for Grace... and Yours Too
    1. Your continual struggles as a parent, your child's rebellion and hatred, are simply thorns in your Father's employ to keep you close to him.… None of us wants to appear weak or incompetent, especially when it comes to difficulties in our family. We hate it when we can't boast about our successful parenting, yet we can grow in our faith to believe the Lord is sending a particular trial because it glorifies him. Has the Lord granted us the privilege of choosing how we'll glorify him? Would our chosen path ever lead us to the valley of the shadow of death with our children? If we spend our whole life trying to avoid that valley, how will we ever experience his comfort while he sustains us by his grace in the valley…? The weaknesses, failures, and sins of our family are the places where we learn that we need grace too. Is there, and those dark mercies, that God teaches us to be humbly dependent. It is there that he draws near to us and sweetly reveals his grace.         -Elyse Fitzpatrick & Jessica Thompson